Today I am talking about something a little different, today I am writing about social media. Social media does a lot of great things in this world but does some shocking things!
Online, it is defined as;
Social media is the collective of online communications channels dedicated to community-based input, interaction, content-sharing and collaboration.
Let’s take it this way, lets take a look at the pros and cons.
Connection for people around the world. You could be on a social network talking to someone in a completely different country! How cool!
Such a easy form of communication, and can be done from wherever! You don’t need to even leave your bed (Which is great thinking of mental health)
Instant news, no matter where you are you can always keep up to date with news. No more waiting around for the 6 o’clock news!
Share interests with complete ease!
Cyber bullying, with the ease of it all, it is therefore easy to bully and laws don’t really protect you from this kind of bullying
Wastes time, its so easy to spend hours on it when you could be doing something much more important
Feeling lonely, you can shut yourself away and talk to people online but it is never going to be as good as seeing those people in person. This is something I personally have experienced, it has made my mental health worse as I have become too reliant on it.
Should you use it? I would say you have to do what you think is best and like everything use it with caution and moderation. No spending hours on it, because it will not make you feel better. It can lead to some pretty horrendous addictions, so please be careful.
I’m Jayde and was recently diagnosed with bipolar disorder. This is an illness if you let it, it can take over your entire life. Where is the middle ground, where is that feeling of sanctity. The fluctuation of mood can be overwhelming and somewhat scary and confusing. When you hit a low you feel a heavy black cloud lingering over you, you feel both emotionally and physically paralysed. you feel dead inside.
Having a high you feel so elated, happy and hyperactive life is a party. Your on cloud 9 nothing could burst that bubble. But in reality that isn’t a real happiness. Your controlled by this elation. Truth is you long to feel real emotion. Just to feel on that boring middle ground. The positive is you realise just how many people care about you. This illness can be misunderstood but it certainly does have a good element.
“You’re never alone”
A little while ago I did a post about the highs of the condition – bipolar. This is of course a big part of the condition but the other thing that is also as important is the lows. Explaining the lows is a little easier to explain.
So imagine every persons moods is on a line, going up above the line and below the line often but just a little bit due to illness, good times and also bad times. With bipolar you’re more all over the place – dipping and going above (highs/lows) but much more drastically.
During a low phase, a person experiences symptoms of depression, which can be incredibly debilitating. If left untreated, these symptoms can become severe and lead to suicidal thoughts and behaviors. Hallucinations and delusions can also occur during a depressive episode. People will sometimes really struggle to sleep and can feel so low it hurts.According to the National Mental Health Association, 30 to 70 percent of suicide victims suffered from major depression or bipolar disorder.
Hi all, sorry about the lack of posting – I am now out of university and have been thrusted into the world of full time work and adult life. I thought I would take this chance to congratulate all the 2017 graduates across the country currently celebrating making it through years of sleepless nights, red bull and long nights spent in the library.
What I did?
A few weeks ago, I graduated with a degree in Drama in the Community from Bishop Grosseteste University in Lincoln. Anyone who knows me knows that I struggled, University was very hard and not always fun and games. I did however have some really good times, and some really nice moments.
In September, when I first started my degree I got ill. I started to really find University and being away from home difficult. Later, I was diagnosed with depression – through some university support, and some lovely people I got through but it was very difficult.
This right here is proof that if you are struggling, you can get through. If you’re in pain, you won’t always be so keep going, keep moving forward and remember we love you.
One quote that I heard once has always stuck by me, it's so important!
"Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy. There's going to be stress in life, but it's your choice whether to let it affect you or not"
It's stuck with me through my life and has really made me think about happiness and how this world actually works, take a look at the sky – every night it gets dark but every morning the sun comes back up! Use this in life, the feelings of horridness you're currently feeling won't last for ever, pain is totally temporary! And the sun will always rise, this may not happen the next day for your mood but it will get better I can promise you.
"You'll have bad times, but it'll always wake you up to the good stuff you weren't paying attention to" Robin Williams
He says it best, bad times will happen – you won't be happy for your entire life, and at times you'll feel like life is really taking the piss but all I would say is remember that it will pass and you will wake up from the horridness of life and make your life special.
Robin Williams was a hurting man and felt the only way was to end it, he had a gift that not many people have – a way of speaking to people and making people happy.
If you're having a rough time, I promise and swear to you that it will get better. You will transcend from this and will be happy I can promise you! But please don't suffer alone, reach out and tell someone how you're feeling, and if you have someone reaching out to you then please remember how horrid they must be feeling, have grace and give them support.
No matter what anyone tells you, words and ideas can change the world so get on it! Build your dreams!
Being positive in this twisted and horrible world is super important, but to be positive you have to understand how being positive helps move you forward in life and this is sometimes very hard. I have bipolar, I struggle a lot of the time but the important thing about me is I get back up, if I'm knocked down 100 times, I'll get up 101 times. At uni I really struggled, i found it so difficult to pick myself up and keep moving forward. But through trying over and over again, I managed to get to a point in my life where things are good and I actually want to get out of bed in the morning. Of course being positive doesn't get rid of your mental health problems, mate – I will always have this horrid condition but instead of struggling every day I have made the decision to really get on in this world. Of course I question my ability and positivity, even others but I always come back the fact that wallowing won't do anything. My advice would be find something you love and throw yourself into it. Make that decision to get up, medication can help, it does help but don't rely on it to much. It is at the end of the day a drug, but please I beg you, carry on, don't give up and reach out. Create a support network that can hold you when you're low, to clarify I'm not always happy, I have bad days but on my bad days I try harder to be happy!
What is the point in deliberately ignoring someone? Why not just tell them that you don’t want to speak to them? Being honest is surely easier and quicker for you, so why would you pick the difficult way? I could guess a few reasons why…
You’re scared of showing any sort of feelings, whatever they are. It’s alright to have emotions you know. You’re allowed to have your own opinions.
You never know what to say. This could be social anxiety, or you just do not want to say the wrong thing. If you want to say something; just go for it. You’ll never be wrong.
You’re forgetful. Honestly, if you forget to reply to someone, they’re either not worth your time or you have a lot on your mind. Just tell this person what you’re going through or explain why you haven’t replied. It’s not fair on the other person. They might be holding onto hope and it’s slowly crushing them that you’re not answering.
You’re scared of the truth. You could be running away from your true feelings towards someone and you think the best thing to do is ignore them. No. Don’t do that. Be true to yourself, be the mature adult that you should be and express them feelings whether they’re positive or negative. You’ll feel relieved once you’ve done it.
There could be so many other reasons why you’re ignoring someone or why someone you think the world of is ignoring you, but these are the main reasons that I think that these situations happen and I wanted to voice my opinion.
It’s not nice being ignored. Lets be honest, we’ve all done it to someone but what I’m trying to do is make people realize that telling the truth is the best solution.
Ignoring someone can make them mentally ill. They’ll question themselves and wonder why they’re not good enough. If you just give them the answers that they’re waiting for, no-one would suffer. I know how hard it can be to be ignored and to also ignore someone and I also know that it probably looks like I’m trying to reach out for something. That’s exactly what I’m doing. I don’t want people to feel the way I’ve felt in the past; I want to try and influence people to do the right thing without begging them.
If you’re being ignored by someone, and feel like you don’t know what to think or do – just stay calm and think that they’re obviously not meant to talk to you and you should be focusing on the people who make time to make conversation with you. There could be a million different reasons why someone is ignoring you; just give them the time to explain and if they don’t… just forget them like they have you.
If anybody is struggling with a situation like this, feel free to contact me.
So, picture this – you have a friend that has just told you about there struggles with mental health – in the most horrid way, there was most likely tears and it’s all very sad.
Heres some tips to help that friend;
Timing, make sure you both agree a time to talk and you both stick to it, avoid talking to them if they are upset or mad (sometimes this cannot be avoided)
Get informed; there is honestly nothing worse than having a deep chat with someone who hasn’t a clue what you’re talking about, if it is to do with depression then find out some facts about depression or do some research.
Back down if they aren’t ready – do not pressure them into talking, if they don’t want to them avoid forcing it.
Accept them and there condition – If they are feeling this way then it is not as easy as snap out of it, get over it or cheer up. If you say things like this then it is likely that they will not talk again.
BE THERE TO LISTEN – Make conversations about what they’re going through easy and open. Ask them what you can do – find out what they find helpful during tough times. Make sure you acknowledge they are feeling down but try and remain positive and encouraging.
Limit your questions, don’t start asking lots and lots as this can be intimidating to them.
Ignore the myths, read up on it and don’t listen to silly rumours
Respect courage – Let your friend know you can trust them, encourage them to talk and thank them for opening up to you, it takes a lot to do that!
Hang on – your friend may want time, so give them it and don’t make a big deal of it right at the beginning.
Support: Seek support for yourself and them, google says a lot and there are many charities which may be able to help, look at them here; Charities.
Sometimes someone doesn’t want help, in this case follows these steps;
Put pressure on them
Be available to talk when they want to
Offer help and or advice
Look out for yourself too!
If things are really series: speak to the persons college, work, other friends, family, people who know them. BUT don’t tell someone else what is going on unless its serious. Or seek help through here; Urgent Help
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