Bipolar – Lows

Hi all,

A little while ago I did a post about the highs of the condition – bipolar. This is of course a big part of the condition but the other thing that is also as important is the lows. Explaining the lows is a little easier to explain.

So imagine every persons moods is on a line, going up above the line and below the line often but just a little bit due to illness, good times and also bad times. With bipolar you’re more all over the place – dipping and going above (highs/lows) but much more drastically.

During a low phase, a person experiences symptoms of depression, which can be incredibly debilitating. If left untreated, these symptoms can become severe and lead to suicidal thoughts and behaviors. Hallucinations and delusions can also occur during a depressive episode. People will sometimes really struggle to sleep and can feel so low it hurts.According to the National Mental Health Association, 30 to 70 percent of suicide victims suffered from major depression or bipolar disorder.





I did it!

Hi all, sorry about the lack of posting – I am now out of university and have been thrusted into the world of full time work and adult life. I thought I would take this chance to congratulate all the 2017 graduates across the country currently celebrating making it through years of sleepless nights, red bull and long nights spent in the library.

What I did?

A few weeks ago, I graduated with a degree in Drama in the Community from Bishop Grosseteste University in Lincoln. Anyone who knows me knows that I struggled, University was very hard and not always fun and games.  I did however have some really good times, and some really nice moments.

What happened?

In September, when I first started my degree I got ill. I started to really find University and being away from home difficult. Later, I was diagnosed with depression – through some university support, and some lovely people I got through but it was very difficult.

This right here is proof that if you are struggling, you can get through. If you’re in pain, you won’t always be so keep going, keep moving forward and remember we love you.


Why be happy?

One quote that I heard once has always stuck by me, it's so important!

"Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy. There's going to be stress in life, but it's your choice whether to let it affect you or not"

It's stuck with me through my life and has really made me think about happiness and how this world actually works, take a look at the sky – every night it gets dark but every morning the sun comes back up! Use this in life, the feelings of horridness you're currently feeling won't last for ever, pain is totally temporary! And the sun will always rise, this may not happen the next day for your mood but it will get better I can promise you.

"You'll have bad times, but it'll always wake you up to the good stuff you weren't paying attention to" Robin Williams

He says it best, bad times will happen – you won't be happy for your entire life, and at times you'll feel like life is really taking the piss but all I would say is remember that it will pass and you will wake up from the horridness of life and make your life special.

Robin Williams was a hurting man and felt the only way was to end it, he had a gift that not many people have – a way of speaking to people and making people happy.

If you're having a rough time, I promise and swear to you that it will get better. You will transcend from this and will be happy I can promise you! But please don't suffer alone, reach out and tell someone how you're feeling, and if you have someone reaching out to you then please remember how horrid they must be feeling, have grace and give them support.

No matter what anyone tells you, words and ideas can change the world so get on it! Build your dreams!

Love and Peace!

James Crick


Why be positive?

Being positive in this twisted and horrible world is super important, but to be positive you have to understand how being positive helps move you forward in life and this is sometimes very hard. I have bipolar, I struggle a lot of the time but the important thing about me is I get back up, if I'm knocked down 100 times, I'll get up 101 times. At uni I really struggled, i found it so difficult to pick myself up and keep moving forward. But through trying over and over again, I managed to get to a point in my life where things are good and I actually want to get out of bed in the morning. Of course being positive doesn't get rid of your mental health problems, mate – I will always have this horrid condition but instead of struggling every day I have made the decision to really get on in this world. Of course I question my ability and positivity, even others but I always come back the fact that wallowing won't do anything. My advice would be find something you love and throw yourself into it. Make that decision to get up, medication can help, it does help but don't rely on it to much. It is at the end of the day a drug, but please I beg you, carry on, don't give up and reach out. Create a support network that can hold you when you're low, to clarify I'm not always happy, I have bad days but on my bad days I try harder to be happy!


I’m Sorry!


I wanted to take this chance to say sorry for not being very active recently online through social media and through my blog, I have been working on some exciting things and will share very soon!

Oh and I’m about to graduate!

Peace out for now!

Ignorance isn’t always bliss

What is the point in deliberately ignoring someone? Why not just tell them that you don’t want to speak to them? Being honest is surely easier and quicker for you, so why would you pick the difficult way? I could guess a few reasons why…

  1. You’re scared of showing any sort of feelings, whatever they are. It’s alright to have emotions you know. You’re allowed to have your own opinions.
  2. You never know what to say. This could be social anxiety, or you just do not want to say the wrong thing. If you want to say something; just go for it. You’ll never be wrong.
  3. You’re forgetful. Honestly, if you forget to reply to someone, they’re either not worth your time or you have a lot on your mind. Just tell this person what you’re going through or explain why you haven’t replied. It’s not fair on the other person. They might be holding onto hope and it’s slowly crushing them that you’re not answering.
  4. You’re scared of the truth. You could be running away from your true feelings towards someone and you think the best thing to do is ignore them. No. Don’t do that. Be true to yourself, be the mature adult that you should be and express them feelings whether they’re positive or negative. You’ll feel relieved once you’ve done it.

There could be so many other reasons why you’re ignoring someone or why someone you think the world of is ignoring you, but these are the main reasons that I think that these situations happen and I wanted to voice my opinion.

It’s not nice being ignored. Lets be honest, we’ve all done it to someone but what I’m trying to do is make people realize that telling the truth is the best solution.

Ignoring someone can make them mentally ill. They’ll question themselves and wonder why they’re not good enough. If you just give them the answers that they’re waiting for, no-one would suffer. I know how hard it can be to be ignored and to also ignore someone and I also know that it probably looks like I’m trying to reach out for something. That’s exactly what I’m doing. I don’t want people to feel the way I’ve felt in the past; I want to try and influence people to do the right thing without begging them.

If you’re being ignored by someone, and feel like you don’t know what to think or do – just stay calm and think that they’re obviously not meant to talk to you and you should be focusing on the people who make time to make conversation with you. There could be a million different reasons why someone is ignoring you; just give them the time to explain and if they don’t… just forget them like they have you.

If anybody is struggling with a situation like this, feel free to contact me.

Everything turns into a positive eventually.

Nicole x

How Can I Help?

So, picture this – you have a friend that has just told you about there struggles with mental health – in the most horrid way, there was most likely tears and it’s all very sad.

Prince William talking to Lady Gaga about mental health!

Heres some tips to help that friend;

  1. Timing, make sure you both agree a time to talk and you both stick to it, avoid talking to them if they are upset or mad (sometimes this cannot be avoided)
  2. Get informed; there is honestly nothing worse than having a deep chat with someone who hasn’t a clue what you’re talking about, if it is to do with depression then find out some facts about depression or do some research.
  3. Back down if they aren’t ready – do not pressure them into talking, if they don’t want to them avoid forcing it.
  4. Accept them and there condition – If they are feeling this way then it is not as easy as snap out of it, get over it or cheer up. If you say things like this then it is likely that they will not talk again.
  5. BE THERE TO LISTEN – Make conversations about what they’re going through easy and open. Ask them what you can do – find out what they find helpful during tough times. Make sure you acknowledge they are feeling down but try and remain positive and encouraging.
  6. Limit your questions, don’t start asking lots and lots as this can be intimidating to them.
  7. Ignore the myths, read up on it and don’t listen to silly rumours
  8. Respect courage – Let your friend know you can trust them, encourage them to talk and thank them for opening up to you, it takes a lot to do that!
  9. Hang on – your friend may want time, so give them it and don’t make a big deal of it right at the beginning.
  10. Support: Seek support for yourself and them, google says a lot and there are many charities which may be able to help, look at them here; Charities.
“If you’re broken, you don’t have to stay broken!” (Selena Gomez)








Sometimes someone doesn’t want help, in this case follows these steps;

Do not:

  • Force them
  • Put pressure on them
  • Avoid them


  • Be available to talk when they want to
  • Offer help and or advice
  • Get informed
  • Look out for yourself too!

If things are really series: speak to the persons college, work, other friends, family, people who know them. BUT don’t tell someone else what is going on unless its serious. Or seek help through here; Urgent Help

Thanks, and remember you can always contact us through our contact page which you can find here; Contact Us


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The Science of Mental Illness!

Hi all, I thought I would be a good idea to go into detail about the sciency stuff of mental health. I’m not very good with science so this is going to simple for me!

Scientists who study mental health illness believe an imbalance in brain chemicals contributes to the development of many disorders. Researchers suspect this imbalance impeded the brain’s ability to move messages from neuron to neuron and for the brain’s wiring to function normally. As a result of this breakdown, the brain may not communicate properly with the body, and a person may begin to show signs of mental illness.

There are a large selection of different chemicals associated with a variety of mental disorders, see below;

Acetylcholine: If there is too much of this inside the brain then the person is more likely to see signs of depression and if there is too little then the person is likely to see signs of Dementia. Dopamine: If there is too much of this inside the brain then the person is more likely to see signs of Schizophrenia and if there is too little then the person is likely to see signs of mild depression. Serotonin: If there is too little of this inside the brain then the person is likely to see signs of depression and some anxiety disorders, especially obsessive-compulsive disorder. Some antidepressant medications increase the availability of serotonin at receptor sites. GABA (Gamma-Amino Butyric Acid): If there is too little of this in the brain then the person is more likely to see signs of anxiety and anxiety disorders. Some anti-anxiety medications increase GABA at receptor sites. Norepinephrine: If there is too much of this in the brain then the person is likely to see signs of Schizophrenia and if there is too little then the person is more likely to see signs of depression. Epinephrine: If there is too little of this in the brain then the person is more likely to see signs of depression. Adrenaline: If there is too much of this in the brain then the person is more likely to see signs of anxiety and anxiety disorders.

What happens in the body?

Anxiety Disorders:

  • Twitching
  • Lightheadedness
  • Nausea
  • Burning sensation on face, neck, ears, scalp or shoulders
  • Racing heartbeat
  • Weight loss/gain


  • Headaches
  • Insomnia
  • Muscle aches and joint pains
  • Change in appetite
  • Back pain
  • Chest pain


  • Blank, vacant facial expression
  • Insomnia or excessive sleeping
  • Involuntary movements of the tongue or mouth
  • Overly acute senses
  • Clumsy, inexact motor skills
  • Awkward gait




Got Anger Issues?

I get angry way too easily and it scares me. It can be really hard to control it and then I question my every move and whether I should make it. This can be a symptom of Bipolar, and people who suffer with it are most likely to be oblivious to their actions but it affects the people around you. They’ll notice changes within your mood swings and you’ll only realize what’s happening after the episode because it physically drains you and the people close to you will most likely explain what you were being like. It can really suck the life out of you and you’ll realize that you get very tired very easily, and you could be prone to headaches and dizziness.

However, it’s obviously not only people with Bipolar that can have anger issues. People suffer with it all around the world, for lots of different reasons so I thought I’d share a few different ways with how to calm your thoughts, feelings and actions.

  1. If you can, stop and think to yourself ‘is this necessary?’ ‘Do I need to react this way?’ ‘Will this matter to me in the next few days?’. Most of the time, you know you’ll get over the situation fairly quickly and if you react badly, the problem will only get worse which is not what you need.
  2. Stop whatever you’re doing if you feel an anger strike coming on; then close your eyes and count to 10. This can instantly make you feel calmer and make you realize that you can remain calm and settled. You’ll feel more in control of yourself and if you repeat this method, you’ll find it a lot easier every time you do it.
  3. Breathing exercises are always a key way for dealing with anger problems. You can find lots of different ways of exercises on YouTube, mental health websites, or your local GP can advise what ways are best for you. Regular breaths are very important. People with anger issues might notice that they breathe irregularly, or at a fast pace and this can be very unhealthy for you.
  4. If you want to just get your anger out; picking up a new sport can be really good. Boxing, running, swimming and cycling are 4 of the most popular sports to be taken up with when someone wants to get their anger out. It distracts the mind as well, which really calms your nerves and gets you thinking positively.
  5. Listening to music is personally my favourite way of releasing my anger. Choose a genre that is the opposite to your current mood so it can either cheer you up or calm you down. Listening to happy, upbeat music really helps me, but I’ve been told that calm music, or old music that you used to listen to when you were younger can also be very good for changing your mood.

Obviously there are so many other ways to release your anger but it’s not an easy thing to get rid of. I know how frustrating it can be to feel angry and out of control, and I find it hard to contain myself at times which can make problems seem a lot worse than they are, but I somehow manage to stay calm a lot of the time which I’m quite proud of. I don’t like to go too much into my anger issues, but if you need any advice or if you need someone to talk to to release your anger, please feel free to contact me so we can discuss this further.

Stay strong,

Nicole x

Bipolar – Highs

Hi all, so there is a lot of talk about depression and about sadness, some people seem to believe that the sadness part of bipolar is worse than the high, elated feeling. This is simply not true, the highs are as dangerous as the lows as you can make decisions which don’t make sense and you can also make silly decisions, a simple example is walking across a road without looking. This can be dangerous, because you could get hit by a car or whatever.

Right, today I thought I’d talk to you about the side of bipolar that seems to not be talked about as much, the highs and elated times. The times that are not low but are high, people seem to think these times are not as serious or easier to get out of – this is not case!

This diagram describes it quite well;


As you can see; with the highs we have to manage all those things but something that has really effected me is the impulsiveness. With me it was with money, all ideas of budgetting went out the window and I spent money I didn’t have on stuff i just didn’t need.

When someone is experiencing the highs of bipolar disorder, they feel overly excited and energized, even though they may sleep very little. You can also experience hypomania, which is a less severe form of mania, when they’re unusually friendly, outgoing and very productive, and generally report feeling incredibly good. They might feel like they’re getting better and rarely see their symptoms as alarming or worrisome. The problem is that, without treatment, hypomania can progress into mania, where complications can occur. One problem is that if people see themself as being high they may think ‘No, I don’t need my medication’ and stop taking it. Which is of course super dangerous.

Each person’s way of expressing these moods is different, but people experiencing mania commonly become excessively self-important, expansive and over-confident.

I found a really interesting article on the internet – you can download it here;